Hello Lovely people,
Today I am thinking about a very important thing that often keeps you sane on the rollercoaster of motherhood. Friendship! Once your sweet bundle of funny smells and loud noises enters the world your purpose for existence changes, as do the relationships you keep, some friends fade away when you’re no longer free to go to the pub on a Friday night and you can end up feeling very alone, your social life becomes baby groups and weighing clinics and at these events you are inevitably known as *insert name of child here’s* mum. Please note I am in no way being negative towards any of these groups they saved my sanity more than once, without prenatal yoga I wouldn’t have one of my bff’s and without Basingstoke buggy walks I wouldn’t have the other, but they are a perfect example of the polar opposite definitions of the Mummy Friend.
Category One – The MUMMY friend
These ladies are the mothers of your children’s friends (I am semi certain the apostrophes are in the wrong place there – my bad!), despite your child playing with theirs since preschool you know them purely as ‘Mark’s mum’ or ‘the twins’ mum’, you see them at birthday parties and playgrounds where you discuss the weather and the pointlessness of giving 5 year olds homework because they don’t do it the parents do! Some of these women you will gel with and they move into the category two but in the majority of cases you will spend a decade of your life swapping pleasantries with them whilst wracking your brains trying to remember wtf their name is! These women are important, they provide some light relief from the stresses of keeping small people alive, but their importance pales in comparison to…
Category Two – The mummy FRIEND
These woman are 70% of the reason you have survived motherhood thus far. You have laughed, cried and every thing in between together.
- When your spouse pisses you off they are there offering to lend you a rolled up carpet and the use of their car.
- You have no issue with telling them on the days you think your child is being a prick! They will probably share why theirs is also being a prick and you will debate which one is the most annoying.
- They know your menstrual cycle better than you do.
- There is no such thing as TMI with these women; sex, secretions, secret inappropriate celebrity fantasies, they have heard it all.
- Public place and your child is acting up but you’re not looking in the right direction? No worries they have two ‘aunties’ sat right there happy to tell them to get off the top of the climbing frame and put their pants back on!
But most importantly of all these women love you and your child, they accept everything about you and you know you can rely on them. So here is my soppy moment Jen, Beka, my two wonderful BFF’s thank you for being you and thank you for being there. I love you. ❤️
Namaste. 🙏
Li
I’m sure they are very nice person but whenever I talk to them all I can think is nope you are not my person!
My Bff Jen – on the MUMMY friend.
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